until it happens to you.

This is not a political post, unless you believe that having a genuine care and concern for the safety, well-being, and rights of individuals is political. Then I guess it is. I’m not going to sit here and bash Trump supporters or question his capacity to lead our nation. I am here to name the behavior taking place because of the tone of this election and to start to figure out what the hell to do about it. Continue reading “until it happens to you.”


if a girl’s gotta go, she’s gotta go.

I’m pretty tired of folks using what seems to be my apparent weakness as a woman as an excuse to discriminate against trans folks. I don’t want to be your excuse to discriminate. Besides, if anyone wants to assault anyone, it’s going to happen regardless of what the sign on a door says. Gendered signs haven’t stopped predators in the past and these predators were not trans folks but individuals with a very clear agenda: to cause harm and assert power over others.
Helpful note: a man who puts on a dress to get into a facility designated for women to commit an assault and then claims to be trans* is more likely than not just trying to get away with it. Which then further perpetuates the transphobia that exists in our society.

In fact, the current statistics for crimes perpetrated in bathrooms by trans folks is a big fat zero.

So for folks out there boycotting Target and other organizations that are striving to make our world more inclusive and accepting, this is my message to you. I don’t need “protection” from a transwoman using the bathroom that coincides with her gender identity. In fact, she is more likely to experience harm and violence than I am.

Continue reading “if a girl’s gotta go, she’s gotta go.”